Not all fantasies make good real life experiences. As hot as having a threesome may be, you need to consider your partner and weigh the pros and cons of reality, like the fact that convincing her to go along with it may be fun while you’re having the three-way but could also lead to the end of your relationship since the jealousy factor is almost always a possibility no matter how into it you may both be.

And while we’re on the subject of threesomes; trying to get your girl to go along with it also comes with the risk of her requesting to have a threesome with you, her and some other guy. Is that something that you’re prepared for? Tit for tat could very well be expected if she agrees to be a part of YOUR fantasy come-true.

If you want to make some of your fantasies a reality, then you’ll also need to consider a few other things, like: your partner’s feelings if you’re in a relationship, who will willingly participate and what risks might be involved.

You may think the idea of group sex is hot, but do you have a group of people that you can go experiment with while being discreet and safe? You may get all hard at the idea of bondage, but BDSM can be scary for some people and a real turn-off so you’ll need to really talk to your partner and make sure that your trust is in tact before giving it a go.

As for sex in public or taking someone by force; you really need to consider the legal ramifications! Yeah, I said legal! Sex in front of an unwilling audience could lead to a public indecency or misdemeanor charge and as for living out a rape fantasy with the wrong person; you could wind up in jail for a long time! (‘No’ may really mean ‘no’ when you’re in the midst of what YOU think is some hot role-playing!)

Pick your fantasies and participants very carefully before you head off to make them a reality. Don’t get me wrong; sexual fantasies can be great in real life too, but there are some that may be best left in your head for you to enjoy during a self-pleasure fest, sex or on the commute to work. You just never know when one may come back and bite you in the ass after the orgasm-induced daze has worn off, so tread carefully my friend.

If you’ve never used sex toys, it can be enticing, intriguing, intimidating and scary all at once. The Rabbit was made popular when Sex and the City featured it one one of the shows. It’s not uncommon to hear that sex partners have broken them in a show of jealousy and “how could I possibly keep up with that!” There are a variety of toys to meet every need-everything from mild to wild. Toys offer the benefit of increasing the level of intimacy and closeness in your relationship and the satisfaction of knowing you can give your partner powerful orgasms. It offers the opportunity to for you to grow in your relationship by being able to talk about sex and desire and what’s important to you in this area of your life. If you can talk openly and honestly about this, you can do anything! Don’t let this opportunity slip away. Here are some tips to help you explore the possibility of using these “tools” with your partner.

====> Talk with a reputable sex toy dealer.

A dealer should make you feel comfortable and answer your questions frankly so you don’t feel embarrassed or intimidated. You can find them through websites, physical stores and through the home party system. A dealer will have knowledge about different items and can help you choose the best ones for you.

====> Don’t come at your partner with the mega beast dong attached to your harness and say, “I’m ready for you, baby!”

You will scare your partner so badly that they may never have sex with you again. Don’t bring up the subject while you are in the throes of passion. Set aside some time when the two of you aren’t distracted.

====> Start out slowly.

Start out with something that isn’t so intimidating. You can use some sensual products like edible lotions, massage products, feathers. A great start is to use warming massage lotions for an incredibly sexy and sensual massage. If you’re not sure about how to give a sensual massage there are great videos that will take you tastefully step-by-step on how to do one. There are edible body powders that you can apply with a feather. Dust this all over your partner’s body with the feather and then lick it off.

====> Add a small vibrator that you can use externally.

A bullet or or any egg-shaped vibrator that fits in the palm of your hand is a great way to start. You can target highly erogenous areas of the body and and drive each other wild! A wireless bullet is great to put in the palm of your hand and caress your partner’s testicles. It’s also great to massage your partner’s labia. If you like to play with each other in water, there are waterproof toys as well.

=====> Look at adding some other toys.

After you’ve talked with your dealer and experimented with some of the less intimidating products, it’s time to ramp it up a bit. There are toys that are designed to be used internally in the vagina and anally; there are toys designed to stimulate the penis through pumping action or sliding it through a silicone sleeve. There are also toys you can use to introduce a little bondage and fetish action into your bedroom. If you’d like to explore the wild side and are not quite sure, there are great educational videos that demonstrate how to go about adding this aspect to your relationship or you can consult with a sex educator.

Sex toys can never replace the human touch; they can’t cuddle with you or tell you that they love you. What they can do is add a level of excitement and novelty that can take your sex life to the next level.

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